The road to destiny isn't always smooth...at times you may encounter pot holes & get stuck or take wrong turns & become lost...however when you find Jesus & allow him to take over the wheel & be your GPS, he will show you the way to life and truth...

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Wednesday, January 17, 2018

An Ode to My One and Only First Love


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To the ONE that captivated my heart
To the ONE that captured my soul
To the ONE that catered to every fiber of my being

I LOVE YOU

Your LOVE is intoxicating
Your LOVE is overwhelming
Your LOVE is irresistible

I LOVE YOU

I cannot and NEVER will forget when we first met
It was LOVE at first sight
It was REAL love

I LOVE YOU

I remember FALLING asleep in your arms at night
I remember your KISSES wiping my tears away
I remember you being my LIGHT in darkness

I LOVE YOU

Memories of our intimate moments fill my MIND
Memories of you catching me after each fall fill my HEART
Memories of your presence at all times fill my MOMENTS

I LOVE YOU

I cannot and never will stop LOVING you
I cannot and never will stop THINKING about you
I cannot and never will stop YEARNING for you

I LOVE YOU

How can my first love be my GOD?
How can my first love be my KING?
How can my first love be my FATHER?

I LOVE YOU

You are my EVERYTHING
My everything is YOU
NOTHING else will do

I LOVE YOU! I LOVE YOU!! I LOVE YOU!!!

Thank you for never LEAVING me
Thank you for LOVING me unconditionally
Thank you for always LIFTING me in your arms

OH HOW, I LOVE YOU! THANK YOU FOR FIRST LOVING ME!!!

Now and forever you will always remain my first and only LOVE
Now and forever you will be the owner of my HEART
Now and forever you will be the center of my UNIVERSE


TO MY FIRST AND FOREVER LOVE, I LOVE YOU FOREVER!

*****

John 15:13 No one shows greater love than when he lays down his life for his friends. (ISV)

I am madly in love with Jesus like never before. If you spent a large part of your life searching for love in all the wrong places, through all the wrong means and in all the wrong people, until you found out that it is only Jesus that could fill that void; you'd understand what I mean. I remember times in my life when I was literally down and out; I had nothing going for me. I failed out of physical therapy school, my longtime relationship crashed, I had no job, the people that I called friends disappeared, I barely had enough money to eat and pay my bills; but GOD! 

He was always there, cheering me on and comforting me. He reminded me of his love for me constantly. Even when I tried to fight it, he didn't let me go. Even when I tried to ignore him, he drew me closer. It was when I finally let my guards down and allowed him to be him and love me that I found a reason to keep living. It was in my time of surrender, that I discovered him and in turn discovered me. It was in this time that I discovered my purpose and it all made sense; there were some things that I had to grow through in order to fulfill destiny. There were also some things that I didn't have to subject myself to; but the good news is that he caused all things to work out for my good.

JESUS IS MY FIRST LOVE!

*If you have no idea what I am referring to, you're missing out! Jesus is knocking on the door of your heart; all you have to do is let him in [Click here].

If you have experience his love, why don't you just take some time to thank him for his love today!


Thanks for reading! God bless you!


With lots of love,


- Bunmi

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Wednesday, January 10, 2018

Supernatural Woman II - Travelling while Pregnant

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Hello everyone!

I pray that your 2018 is off to a great start! If not, no worries it will get better just trust God and follow his plan!

I initially spoke about my experience with my first pregnancy here. I continue below:

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          I travelled back to the U.S. while 7 months pregnant as I stated previously; I was accompanied by my mom and grandmother. Prior to the trip, I tried to mentally prepare for it. The thought of being on a plane for about twelve hours straight was not appealing; especially since my husband wouldn't be there with me. I had been imagining the day that my husband and I would gathering our belongings from Akure and bid our farewells as we boarded the aircraft; crossing oceans while enjoying impeccable service in business class. Well neither happened and I wasn't a happy camper. But I had to put on my 'big girl pants', suck it up and be strong. Saying goodbye to my church family was also very hard; they had become a major part of my life for over a year; I held back tears as they serenaded me with songs, kind words, gifts, etc. on my last day at church.

         Afterwards, my husband and I travelled to Lagos to meet up with my mom. Shortly after our arrival, I noticed that I was spotting. I was really concerned as my flight was just a couple of days away. We attributed the spotting to the stress of the trip (travelling from Akure, stopping over in Ife to see my pastors and then our final stop in Lagos) and concluded that I should rest instead of us hanging out at a few of our favorite spots in Lagos. 

       As I continued to spot, fear threatened to grip my heart but I kept confessing God's Word; According to, Exodus 23:26 "None shall cast their young nor be barren in thy land; the number of thy days I will fulfill"; I would say, "I will not cast my young or miscarry my baby in Jesus name." I was hoping that the bleeding would stop but it continued; my husband decided to take me to a pharmacy to purchase medication that should stop the bleeding. I was really concerned about taking medication during my pregnancy ( I actually don't like taking meds regularly) but the pharmacist informed me that it was safe. I reluctantly obliged so that my husband wouldn't worry and also for the sake of my baby.

         The day of my trip came a little too quickly; I secretly wished that time would be paused for a few days as the thought of leaving my husband behind made me very emotional. The time for our flight finally came; and we loaded my husband's and my aunt's cars with all of my, my mom's and my grandmother's luggage (we had so many bags!) Driving to the airport wasn’t too bad, I held on to every minute that I had left to spend with my husband.

Checking in at the airport was stressful; when they found out that I was pregnant they gave me a hard time. I was told to get a clearance from the airport nurse stating that I was healthy enough to travel and to confirm my belly circumference (to ensure that I wasn't too far along); even though I had documentation from my doctor stating just that. Long story short, about an hour of finally being able to get the clearance I discovered that it was not needed because I was a U.S. citizen; a waste of time and money. But I pretty much did it to myself, if I didn't mention that I was pregnant to one of the airline staff, no one would have noticed. I was barely showing, my bump was small and I had on a loose fitting kaftan.

       The moment had finally come, I braced myself to say goodbye to my husband. I could barely look at him as we hugged, kissed and said our "I love you(s)" and "see you soon(s)". I managed not to cry and faked a smile instead as I walked to our gate. After an hour or so, we were finally able to board the plane. By this time, I was exhausted. The only thing on my agenda was SLEEP. When we arrived at our seats, I was disappointed; we were given seats in the middle aisle - no window seat for me to rest my head on and there was minimal leg room. I just sat down and accepted my fate as it was a full flight; there was no option to choose another seat.

      I managed to sleep briefly until they announced that they were serving food, finally! When the air hostess finally came around to get our orders, I was relieved; I was really hungry. My mom and grandmother got their food first and I sat patiently as I waited for mine; only for the air hostess to return and say that they no longer had rice; and all that was left was chicken. I almost cried as I explained to her that I was pregnant and hungry. The hostess said she would see what she could do; she returned about 20 minutes later with something that looked like it was tossed together a few seconds ago. I managed to eat the tasteless rice and sauce. Afterwards, I walked a little throughout the aircraft as I read that it was important for me (being pregnant) to move around frequently to avoid blood clots; so I took walks every few hours to keep the blood flowing. 

      After twelve long hours, some tasteless meals, a number of attempted sleep sessions and uncomfortable seating, we arrived in New York safely. As the plane touched down, sounds of people clapping, rejoicing and shouting "Thank you Jesus, thank you Lord" filled the air. I was relieved; I couldn't wait to get to my parent's house. Upon exiting the airport, the cold chill hit me without a warning; I quickly said hi to my dad and rushed into the car. First stop was Burger King per my request! As filling my belly, I was satisfied. We finally got home and it felt good but different; it felt different to be in my parent's house again; so much had change. I chatted with my siblings a bit and then I borrowed someone's phone to call my husband. It felt so weird to be talking to my husband from the other side of the phone on the other side of the world...this was the beginning of many of such moments.


To be continued...



You are blessed!



- Bunmi


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Wednesday, January 03, 2018

Make the Best of 2018

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HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!


Woohoo the long await year has arrived!!! 2018!!!

Congratulations! You made it! You're reading this because you're alive!!! What a beautiful time to be alive!

I am very excited about this New Year, I hope you are also? If not, GET EXCITED!

Before proceeding further, I want to thank you all for your support. Thank you! Thank you!! Thank you!!!

It is one thing to pour out your heart and pray that people would take the time to read it; it is another thing to actually have people read your work and give you feedback! I am grateful to all my readers; you inspire and motivate me!

One of my goals for this blog this year is to be more consistent in posting here (So help me God!). I also want to make it more interactive. Your comments, feedback, suggestions, etc. are greatly appreciated! Please help me to keep the fire burning, your feedback means so much to me.

Now that I've gotten that out of the way, let's continue to today's post.

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So it is a New Year and a number of things occur at the beginning of each year. People are generally in high spirits. People are making resolutions, setting goals and dreaming big. You hear phrases like:  "New Year, New Me" or "Out with the old, in with the new". These are all good and great. I always encourage people to make plans and set achievable goals. There is a common saying that goes, "If you fail to plan, you plan to fail"; I totally agree.

Many people start off each year in grand style; however a couple of months after ringing in the new year, "life happens" and many end up hopeless and discouraged. We see many people lacking the strength to get pass the hurdles and end up throwing in the towel. 

Don't be that person this year! Enough time has been wasted! Enough goals have been left unachieved! No more giving up! No more loosing hope! Dream again, believe again and hope again!

"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results."- Albert Einstein

In this New Year, one of the keys to accomplishing your goals is to develop a new game plan and be consistent (stick to it). In this generation we are used to getting things done fast- when we want it and how we want it. The Word 'patience' seems to have become a curse; 'overnight success' and 'getting rich fast' are more appealing phrases. Giving up at the first sign of resistance is a no-no; there is beauty in persistence because it always produces the desired outcome.

But, can I be honest with you? While all this sounds good and straightforward, it takes a divine intervention for your dreams to become a reality. It takes inside information to develop a new game plan that will actually work. Naturally speaking, we don't have the ability to accomplish God-inspired goals in our strength. Many people recognize a higher power or a supreme being; as a result there are many religions today. However, I'd like to invite you into a relationship; I'd like to introduce you to true love, to the real definition of fatherhood; I'd like to introduce to a person, the truth, the real deal, the all-knowing, and all-powerful.

I know, LORD, that our lives are not our own. We are not able to plan our own course. - Jeremiah 10:23 (NLT)

Stop doing business as usual; there is always a bigger and better way. Having a relationship with God is the first step; however we must cultivate this relationship. Like any relationship, if you fail to put in work the relationship will not flourish. If you've not accepted the Jesus as your Lord and savior, don't wait another second, click here. If you already have a relationship with God, that's great; but it is time to step it up a few notches. 

When you received Jesus as your Lord and savior, you gave up your right to take care of yourself and figure life out by yourself; you no longer have to be independent, instead choose to be absolutely dependent on God. God has a plan for every aspect of your life, you really don't know all there is to know about your life. It takes an intimate relationship with God to know the different phases and stages of your life (Ecclesiastes 3:1).

I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye. - Psalm 32:8 (KJV) 
The LORD says, "I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you. -Psalm 32:8 (NLT)
 
Stop putting pressure on yourself, stop trying to do it by yourself, stop trying to figure it out by yourself, stop allowing yourself to be led by circumstances; if you continue, your strength will fail. Connect to the strength of God through constant fellowship with him. Seek to know him for yourself, seek to go beyond the perimeter and press into intimacy with him; this is TRUE LOVE! As you develop this relationship, he will instruct, teach and guide you into the beautiful life that he has prepared for (Psalm 32:8). Let your pursuit for God be your number one goal this year; as you seek him, he will reveal his plans for you (Jeremiah 29:11) which will inform your goal setting.

You make known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand. -Psalm 16:11 (NIV)
  
In this New Year, I pray that you will develop a burning desire to seek God more and develop a better relationship with him. I pray that you will be strengthened to prioritize fellowship with God. I pray that the things that have distracted you in the past will give way to a renewed passion for God and fulfilling his purpose for your life. AMEN


Thanks for reading! I love you!


You're blessed!

~With lots of love

Bunmi Adebiyi

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Monday, December 18, 2017

Supernatural Woman- Pregnant not Disabled

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Hello Folks!!!

Welcome back!!! And if it is you're first time here, you are most welcomed!

I want to thank you for reading this blog, it has been an encouragement. When people contact me and say that they've been blessed by something that I share on this space, I am overwhelmed! 

THANK YOU! THANK YOU!! THANK YOU!!!

Thank God for an awesome 2017, looking forward to bigger and better things on this blog in 2018.

I shared how my husband and I found out how I was pregnant with our first child here. In this post I continue my pregnancy journey. ENJOY!


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Overall, my pregnancy was stress-free. Besides the normal fatigue, I didn't have any symptoms. I never had nausea, I never vomited, I never had strange cravings...as a matter of fact, I lost weight during the first trimester because I didn't have much of an appetite. People around us had no idea that we were expecting, we only told our pastors and parents initially. When we finally told people, many of them were surprised; I didn't look or "act" pregnant...they were shocked that I did not have any symptoms. I was five months pregnant when my baby bump decided to make a slight appearance. By that time, the cat was out of the bag...it was no longer our little secret.

I was enjoying the journey; it was a miracle to have someone growing inside of me. I was grateful to God because, I knew that it wasn't the "norm" to be able to have energy to do so many things during pregnancy. Every morning, I'd speak to my baby, pray over my baby and take confessions about my baby and pregnancy. I was determine to do this pregnancy by faith; I couldn't afford to go about it naturally and just go with the flow. I didn't want my feelings to lead me, I decided to control what I felt by using the Word of God.

I was also aware that work needed to be done because of the phase of ministry that we were in. I couldn't afford to live off of my feelings. I couldn't afford the temptation to blame my laziness on pregnancy. I intentionally pushed myself to do things that many felt pregnant women shouldn't do. I made up my mind to keep up with business as usual; I still worked my normal schedule at the office, I still attended all church services, etc.

The first sermon that I ever preached in my life was during my pregnancy, I believe I was a little over five months pregnant. During my quiet time one day, God spoke to me and said I want you to preach on Sunday. I was shocked, me? preach? While I'm pregnant? Ahhh!?!?  I wanted to brush it off but I knew that I had heard from God, so I couldn't fight it. When I told my husband, I was shocked at his response. He felt that people wouldn't be able to get pass my accent....at least that's what he said. I secretly felt like he thought I wasn't ready...or maybe that was my insecurities talking to me. At the end of the day, he agreed.

Lo and behold, the night before my first sermon I started to feel really sick. I had an "upset tummy" and I felt really weak. It was struggle to get out of bed that morning, but I had to put my game face on. Off I went to church all prayed up and drawing from inward strength...it was all I had. I still felt funny as I sat through the various parts of service up unto it was time to minister. Once I got on that stage, every single symptom disappeared. It was like an out of body experience! I ministered on being led by the Holy Spirit. For the first time I understood what it meant to minister by the anointing, whew it was an amazing experience! And when people said that they were blessed, I was encouraged.

If anyone would have told me that I would stand before hundreds of people and speak for about an hour; I would have laughed in Chinese and called them a liar! I remember the days when just the thought of speaking in front of a couple of people would have me sweating bullets and glued to the toilet. What a privilege to have Jesus, he turned my life around and helped me to redefine myself. I know for sure that it was the God in me, his special grace that helped me to stand before the congregation that day, 

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After church service, I felt worse. I was vomiting (the first and only time during my pregnancy) and my tummy was running. I was very concerned because I was pregnant. We eventually discovered that I had food poisoning. My husband and I had a date night on Saturday; after a great meal I decided that I wanted fresh catfish pepper soup. I should have known something was wrong when the waitress looked startled at our request; furthermore, it took them forever to serve what should have took about 20 minutes. To top it off it was NOT worth the wait, it was the worse pepper soup that I've ever had. It took me a couple of days to recover and get it all out of my system. Thank God for an amazing mother in-love that took good care of me during that time.

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A few months into our marriage, our pastors informed us that we were selected to start up a branch of our church in the United States. We began the process of relocation by applying for a VISA for my husband shortly after our wedding.  And the process was taking FOREVER! As my belly grew larger, we had to make a decision. I had to come to the US first and my husband would as soon as he got his VISA.  It was a very hard decision but it had to be done, so I packed up my belongings and left Nigeria at 7 months pregnant.



To be continued....


You are blessed!


- Bunmi


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Tuesday, December 12, 2017

The Power of the Spoken WORD

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I tell you the truth, you can say to this mountain, 'May you be lifted up and thrown into the sea,' and it will happen. But you must really believe it will happen and have no doubt in your heart.  
Mark 11:23 NLT

Have you ever struggled with reading the bible? Maybe you begin to read and you get bored easily or you suddenly feel sleepy. I've been there, there was a point in my life when the bible did not make any sense to me; it was comparable to an old history book in my opinion. I didn't see what other people claimed to see and I couldn't understand how people got the Word of God to “work for them”. I concluded that I had no control over what occurred in my life and I just had to go with the flow; accepting everything that life threw my way.

This way of thinking was my permanent abode until life happened and I was left alone, confused and scared. In that moment, I ran to God and sought after him like never before. I would ask God to reveal himself to me; I wanted to know him for myself. There was 'something' within me telling me that there was more to life and I didn't have to settle. As I followed God's leading, the bible became alive to me. I saw Jesus in it, in turn I saw myself. I saw who I was created to be and what God had prepared for me. I was glued to the Word, from listening to sermons, to attending church services and programs severally times a week to setting out time to study the bible; I became an addict!

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The Word of God is not effective if it is just in your head; it becomes effective once it enters into your heart. Merely skimming through pages in the bible, reading a verse here and there would leave you with information in your head. Meditation on God's Word is the way to get it into your heart. Meditation involves reading scriptures, in depth study of scriptures and confession of scriptures (speaking the Word out loud to yourself); this process continues until the Word sinks in, bypassing your mind and going into your spirit and igniting Faith in you (Joshua 1:8).

The quickest way to get anything into your heart is by speaking it. We must understand that our words contain power. Our inherit power is released through our words. The type of power that you release depends on the words that you choose to speak; you either releasing miracle working power or destructive power (Proverbs 18:21). You must speak the Word in faith to make it work for you.

Faith in God and his Word is the key to living the life that Jesus died to give. Romans 10:17 tells us that faith comes by the hearing of the Word. You must hear the Word of God in order to believe and receive it. You hear the Word of God when you speak it back to yourself via meditation and when you listen to a sermon being taught or preached by an anointed minister of God.

Colossians 3:16, tells us to let the Word of Christ dwell in us richly. When this scripture speaks about the 'word of Christ', it is referring to the Greek word 'logos' which is defined as the spoken word of God. God's Word is the container of his power (Hebrews 1:3); in order to release the power of God into any area of your life, you need to speak it. It is the Word that you decree that becomes established (Job 22:28); not the word you merely 'think' upon. 

When you decree the Word of God, you are defining the portion of your inheritance in him; you are selecting the boundaries for what you will or will not allow in your life (Matthew 18:18). 


You must get to the point where the Word of God overwhelms and overtakes you then begins to ooze out of you. This is a place where you only hear, see, speak and do what the Word of God says; there is no other option and there is no backup plan. The Word is God's gift to you; it is your access into all that God has prepared for us.  As you speak this Word to yourself, using it to address situations and circumstances; you unleash the power of God to make it good. So speak the Word over every area of your life today and awaiting the performance of that very Word!



You are blessed!



- Bunmi


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Thursday, December 07, 2017

A Pleasant Surprise

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Hello All!

HAPPY DECEMBER! 2017 is winding down and 2018 is beckoning!

I don't know about you but 2017 has been one for the books; an interesting year to say the least. I surely had some ups and downs; but overall I can say that I had a great year!


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In my last post, I spoke about my experience with looking for employment in Akure. If you haven't read it yet, check it out here: Looking Up to God.

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So after about six months, I finally started "work". It was an exciting and fulfilling experience. I enjoyed what I did; I enjoyed having something to keep me busy during the day. The organization was led by an amazing person and I was amazed by the exceptional work and effort of the staff members. It was a completely different experience from the work that I did with NYSC.

During my first month at work, I was also planning our church's first year anniversary. And being the perfectionist that I am, I was stressed and overwhelmed. I wanted everything to be perfect. In my bid of having a perfect anniversary celebration, I noticed that I was getting irritated easily; if something didn't go the way I planned, I would be so annoyed and if anyone was responsible for it, they may have just heard 'it' from me (*covers face*)

Thankfully the anniversary celebration went well; in fact it was a huge success! I was finally able to breathe again! One day while chilling with my husband in our home, I had a light bulb moment. I realized that I hadn't gotten my period that month. I informed my husband and he just brushed it off; he attributed the delay to the stress associated with planning the Church's anniversary.  I agreed but at the back on my mind the question "Am I pregnant?" lingered.

After a week of no call, no show from Ms. Period, I convinced my husband to purchase a pregnancy test. "You're not pregnant...I am a doctor, I would know" my husband said. He had every reason to feel that way, I had absolutely no symptoms. I felt perfectly fine.

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When we first got married, I told my husband that I did not want to have any children until after the first year; he concurred. I wanted to "enjoy my marriage"...it is not like children make it impossible to enjoy marriage by the way.  But, I knew that I just wanted to have time alone with my husband. After all, our courtship was short and I wanted to spend some more time getting to know him and vice versa.

Well six months into our marriage, I started to reconsider. After all, "I wasn't getting any younger" and "my clock was ticking"; I had baby fever!  So I decided to have a talk with my husband and he also agreed. So we decided to discontinue using birth control. Hmm...In reference to birth control, I got so many reactions when I told people that I was considering it. I heard things like, "There is no birth control in marriage"; "You should only use birth control after your first child"; "You better not use birth control and damage your womb." I was shocked at these reactions but I went ahead nonetheless; when I went to the family planning clinic, I ignored the nurse's mumbling and vivid displeasure about my decision; I gladly took the birth control and went about my business! Thankfully, I was informed so I didn't allow anyone to mislead me.

But I digress...

While growing up, I was always afraid of pregnancy and childbirth. I saw and heard terrifying things. I heard about the morning sickness & the various symptoms- from nausea, to vomiting, to swollen feet, to chronic spitting (this is a symptom that I've only seen in Nigerians btw!), to weird cravings, to chronic back pain, etc. I did not know anyone that had anything good to say about pregnancy; except the usual “once you have the baby you will forget about all the symptoms and pain.”  I was told that the pain associated with childbirth was the worst pain ever; it couldn't be compared to anything.

So I was very scared. Also since my teenage years, I kept hearing a voice (the voice of the devil of course) telling me that I would have challenges when it comes to getting pregnant. It was so strange to me, no one in my immediate family had that issue...so why me??? The fear of pregnancy and childbirth was a huge burden that I carried, until one faithful day.

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I had just completed School of Ministry, which is a comprehensive training for ministry conducted by my pastor. We had classes, tests, a group project and a project defense/presentation at the end of the course. My group was recognized for having the best project; and I was given a book. When I finally settled down at home, I removed the book’s packaging. *I laugh now as I remember my reaction* As soon as I read the title, I was livid. My husband just sat quietly and watched my Oscar-worthy performance. "Why do they always expect people to have a baby right after the wedding? Why couldn't I have been given any other book?"

The book in question was "Supernatural Childbirth" by Jackie Mize; that book changed my life! I decided to pick it up a few weeks later and I have not and never will regret it. I have read it several times since then. For the first time in my life, I discovered that pregnancy could be enjoyable, symptom-free and that delivery could be pain-free. WHAT?!?! As I devoured each page, my faith increased more and more and I was pumped up! * I recommend this book for anyone that desires to have a child, IT IS A MUST READ*

Shortly after getting married, we had an "issue" that naturally would prevent me from getting pregnant and those words came back "you're going to have trouble getting pregnant." I started googling away and already discussed the possibility of going to see a specialist to my husband before I realized that I was going about it all wrong. I got my senses back and decided to pray and take authority over that issue. In no time, it simply disappeared! Look at God! There is power in faith! There is power in prayer!

So back to the day when we decided to take the pregnancy test. I opened the package and did the do. My husband and I went about our business and actually forgot about it; until I walked into the restroom a few hours later. And to my amazement, it was POSITIVE! I couldn't believe my eyes! I just stood there glued to the restroom floor. After a few minutes, I ran to my husband and shared the news. He was render speechless; when he regained his voice, he kept saying it was not possible. After the shock, came the excitement. I was surprised because I did not expect to get pregnant so soon, I just stopped the birth control a month prior.


It became real when we went for the first ultrasound a few days later; I was six weeks pregnant! I had a baby in me!!!

To be continued...



You are blessed!



- Bunmi


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Wednesday, November 08, 2017

Looking up to God

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Hello! Thank you so much for stopping by today! In today's blogpost, I talk about adjusting to a new environment. Relocating to Akure was not easy, it was solely a step of faith. Settling down was not a walk in the park, it came with it's own set of challenges. Continue reading and be blessed!

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In all honesty, I didn’t like Akure...well initially. I had a hard time adjusting to the new environment. There was nowhere to go, no one to see, and not much do in the small town. To top it off, job searching was stressful. I soon found out that the job market answered to relationships with government officials or other “very important people” and undercover bribes. So after trying and trying, I remembered that I had a relationship with the king of Akure at that time. My husband and I went to go and meet him at the palace one day; and he promised to help us both out. We were elated!

Sadly, he died a few weeks before we were supposed to return to the palace for a second visit. It was painful because he was a friend of both of our families; and he was a wonderful man. Well, getting a reference from him for jobs wasn’t possible any longer. Remember that my husband already had a job but the salary was terrible. I cringed after converting how much he made to dollars; it didn’t make sense that a medical doctor would earn so little. So, I really desired that my husband had a better paying job; and a job that wouldn’t require him to work on Saturdays.

One of our church members suggested that we contact her sister; her sister was a government official. So off we went, hoping that this was it! We got a reference letter from her and I took it to the state’s health department hoping that it would give me an advantage. After waiting for hours to see the head of the health department, his reaction said it all; the reference letter was not going to do me any good. I thought that my Public Health degree from the U.S. would impress him; while it did, it wasn’t enough. However, he reluctantly invited me to apply for an open position with the company. It was a partnership with World Bank, I was excited! Getting the position would have been a dream come true. Plus the pay seemed like it would be good!

When I got an invitation for an interview, I was elated!!! I was sure that the job was mine! The company was looking to fill about 12 positions and I was sure that I would be one of the top choices. On the day of the interview, I dressed my best and I was prayed up. The interview was done in a panel format; I was asked various questions by about five men. The head of the health department was one of the panelists, I was sure that he would put in a good word for me. I answered each question confidently, and at the end of the interview, I was sure that I made a lasting impression!

Imagine my shock when I was NOT selected, I was crushed and discouraged. I knew that we were primarily in Akure for ministry and that was fine but I wanted to start my public health career. I didn't want to be a housewife (not that there is anything wrong with that). I wanted to do something meanful, I wanted to have impact in the public health. And I worked so hard for my master's degree. I already sacrificed one year to NYSC, I believed that it was time for my reward of a good paying job in my field. With each disappointment, I was starting to feel that my degree was useless and that hurt!

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Shortly after the interview, my father remembered that his former coworker relocated to Nigeria a couple of years prior and he worked with the government. So my father made a call and he promised to rectify the issue; because he knew the head of the health department personally. My hopes were up again…but not for long. After my father’s former coworker contacted the head of the health department, he was told that it was too late; he said that the positions were already filled prior to the interview.  Everyone of the panielist already chose their candidates; the interview was conducted just to fulfill all rightesouness. The head of the organizarion felt terrible because my father’s former coworker was a wonderful host when he visited him in the U.S. He kept apologizing to me profusely. 

So I was back at square one, by this time I was tired and upset at the system. My father’s former coworker apologized and suggested that I volunteered with the organization. I was offended, how can he tell me to volunteer with my qualifications??? I never gave him a definite response. He kept calling me and asking me to go and see the head of the organization and speak to him about volunteering. I finally obliged and went ahead to meet him.

Little did I know that God had a plan all along. I just wasn’t patient enough to ask for his plan. I was too busy going the “world’s way” and trying to look to ‘people’ to help me; instead of looking up to God, the owner of the universe for help. He had a prepared a place for me in the company already, he had gone ahead of me. I was selected as a volunteer, I was able to choose my own hours (I worked 3 days a week), I was given my own office, I was given a laptop and after a few weeks, they decided to give me a monthly transportation allowance that was more than the salary of a good number of the staff. Look at God!
Jeremiah 29:11 (KJV) For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.

Like I said in my previous post, throughout our stay in Akure we truly learned to work by faith. It was not always easy, neither was it always convenient but it was always worth it.


Be Blessed!

- Bunmi Adebiyi


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