The road to destiny isn't always smooth...at times you may encounter pot holes & get stuck or take wrong turns & become lost...however when you find Jesus & allow him to take over the wheel & be your GPS, he will show you the way to life and truth...

Wednesday, November 08, 2017

Looking up to God

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Hello! Thank you so much for stopping by today! In today's blogpost, I talk about adjusting to a new environment. Relocating to Akure was not easy, it was solely a step of faith. Settling down was not a walk in the park, it came with it's own set of challenges. Continue reading and be blessed!

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In all honesty, I didn’t like Akure...well initially. I had a hard time adjusting to the new environment. There was nowhere to go, no one to see, and not much do in the small town. To top it off, job searching was stressful. I soon found out that the job market answered to relationships with government officials or other “very important people” and undercover bribes. So after trying and trying, I remembered that I had a relationship with the king of Akure at that time. My husband and I went to go and meet him at the palace one day; and he promised to help us both out. We were elated!

Sadly, he died a few weeks before we were supposed to return to the palace for a second visit. It was painful because he was a friend of both of our families; and he was a wonderful man. Well, getting a reference from him for jobs wasn’t possible any longer. Remember that my husband already had a job but the salary was terrible. I cringed after converting how much he made to dollars; it didn’t make sense that a medical doctor would earn so little. So, I really desired that my husband had a better paying job; and a job that wouldn’t require him to work on Saturdays.

One of our church members suggested that we contact her sister; her sister was a government official. So off we went, hoping that this was it! We got a reference letter from her and I took it to the state’s health department hoping that it would give me an advantage. After waiting for hours to see the head of the health department, his reaction said it all; the reference letter was not going to do me any good. I thought that my Public Health degree from the U.S. would impress him; while it did, it wasn’t enough. However, he reluctantly invited me to apply for an open position with the company. It was a partnership with World Bank, I was excited! Getting the position would have been a dream come true. Plus the pay seemed like it would be good!

When I got an invitation for an interview, I was elated!!! I was sure that the job was mine! The company was looking to fill about 12 positions and I was sure that I would be one of the top choices. On the day of the interview, I dressed my best and I was prayed up. The interview was done in a panel format; I was asked various questions by about five men. The head of the health department was one of the panelists, I was sure that he would put in a good word for me. I answered each question confidently, and at the end of the interview, I was sure that I made a lasting impression!

Imagine my shock when I was NOT selected, I was crushed and discouraged. I knew that we were primarily in Akure for ministry and that was fine but I wanted to start my public health career. I didn't want to be a housewife (not that there is anything wrong with that). I wanted to do something meanful, I wanted to have impact in the public health. And I worked so hard for my master's degree. I already sacrificed one year to NYSC, I believed that it was time for my reward of a good paying job in my field. With each disappointment, I was starting to feel that my degree was useless and that hurt!

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Shortly after the interview, my father remembered that his former coworker relocated to Nigeria a couple of years prior and he worked with the government. So my father made a call and he promised to rectify the issue; because he knew the head of the health department personally. My hopes were up again…but not for long. After my father’s former coworker contacted the head of the health department, he was told that it was too late; he said that the positions were already filled prior to the interview.  Everyone of the panielist already chose their candidates; the interview was conducted just to fulfill all rightesouness. The head of the organizarion felt terrible because my father’s former coworker was a wonderful host when he visited him in the U.S. He kept apologizing to me profusely. 

So I was back at square one, by this time I was tired and upset at the system. My father’s former coworker apologized and suggested that I volunteered with the organization. I was offended, how can he tell me to volunteer with my qualifications??? I never gave him a definite response. He kept calling me and asking me to go and see the head of the organization and speak to him about volunteering. I finally obliged and went ahead to meet him.

Little did I know that God had a plan all along. I just wasn’t patient enough to ask for his plan. I was too busy going the “world’s way” and trying to look to ‘people’ to help me; instead of looking up to God, the owner of the universe for help. He had a prepared a place for me in the company already, he had gone ahead of me. I was selected as a volunteer, I was able to choose my own hours (I worked 3 days a week), I was given my own office, I was given a laptop and after a few weeks, they decided to give me a monthly transportation allowance that was more than the salary of a good number of the staff. Look at God!
Jeremiah 29:11 (KJV) For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.

Like I said in my previous post, throughout our stay in Akure we truly learned to work by faith. It was not always easy, neither was it always convenient but it was always worth it.


Be Blessed!

- Bunmi Adebiyi


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Wednesday, October 11, 2017

Honeymoon Ends and The Journey Begins

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So our honeymoon was short lived. We originally wanted to honeymoon in Dubai but we had to take a rain check; my husband had to start work about a week after our wedding and we never really went ahead to make definite plans.

We left our hotel early the next morning because we were so hungry!!! And we didn't want to pay for another night. We later found out that complimentary breakfast was available for us at the Sheraton...if we only knew!

One of our church members brought us our car and we headed to the nearest fast food restaurant. We ate like it was our last supper; the food was delicious. Next on our to do list was to find another hotel. The first one that we went to didn't have any rooms available; my husband was starting to get stressed. Surprisingly I was calm; it probably was because of the yummy food that I consumed earlier, I was on cloud nine

As we were about to drive off, our pastor called to check on us. He could tell that my husband was flustered so he asked what was going on. After explaining the situation to him, he directed us to another hotel. He said that the facilities weren't the best but the food was good; I was sold! Talk about perfect timing! I thank God for our pastor, he always seems to come through when we need him; even when we need a hotel in the middle of our "honeymoon" :-).


So off we went, and after about 30 minutes we arrived! The hotel was definitely a far cry from the Sheraton but we made the best of it. And the food made up for what was lacking in the facility; to top it off the price was right! We stayed at the hotel for a couple of days, we mostly relaxed and went out once in a while. It was good but too short! :-(.

We had to head back to Akure and start our new life together. My husband had to head to his new place of work to fill out some paperwork. Afterward, we drove to our new home. It was my first time seeing it and I was glad; my husband was in charge of selecting our house and he did a great job! Yay!

After settling in a bit, we went to visit my husband's parents. We ate, chatted and left with gifts. They gave us a few pieces of furniture, which was much needed. When we arrived at home, we realized that our flat (apartment) was not connected to the electric supply. We called the landlord and she apologized, she told us to pay for someone to fix it and she would refund the money when she came to town a few weeks later. Well there were a few others things that weren't fixed and we had to pay to sort it all out; and our beloved landlord never refunded our money. If we only knew that she was showing her true colors, we wouldn't have been surprised when she did worse things; she wasn't too nice to say the least. From my experience with her, I made up my mind that I wanted to own my own home much sooner than later.

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Since we were back in town, we had to church the following Sunday. Our attention was also needed asap, an issue came up while we were away. So here we were back to work. Some people were surprised to see us back so soon, but hey! We had to do what we had to do!
I felt so uncomfortable on our first Sunday back; in the back of my mind, I was thinking that everyone was looking at me funny because I had "done the deed", lol! Don't mind me, I have no idea why I was thinking like that. I hadn't completely embraced my new "status"as a a pastor's wife I had to get used to the attention, sitting in the front beside my husband, and higher expectations of me. It was a lot for me to process at the time. You would of thought that I would have been prepared, but marriage was a big deal; and coupled with pastoring duties, it was an even bigger deal!

The next couple of weeks were interesting. We were adjusting and learning how to live together as husband and wife. Most of all, we were learning how to live strictly by faith. We didn't have much financially and materially, but we had each other and we had a Great God that continuously reminded us that he was our source and sustainer. And at the end of the day, having each other and God was all that mattered!



You are blessed!

- Bunmi



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Friday, September 29, 2017

Victory Over Storms


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The past few weeks have been eye opening for me as I went through and survived Hurricane Harvey...I am pretty sure that you're aware of this natural disaster and how it has affected Houston and other parts of Texas; it was an experience to say the least. I got wind of the impending storm a few days prior; my husband saw the forecast on the news and informed me about it. I didn't think much of it initially.

However, when my husband came home on the Thursday before the storm was scheduled to hit, I re-thought my initial response to the news. He told me that he was listening to the radio and it was advised that we filled the car with gas and have enough water and food at home, because the storm was scheduled to start the following day. So he went out to do just that; something that would normally take him a few minutes, took him a couple of hours.

After receiving a couple of calls from friends about long lines at supermarkets and most things being sold out, I decided to do some research. I saw that the hurricane was fore casted to be the worse in over ten years. It began to rain on Thursday night, but it wasn't major. The rain continued on and off throughout Friday, this time accompanied with loud thunder and bolts of lightening. Then around midnight, the rain began to come down harder and it was nonstop; it was clear that it was indeed a storm.

My husband attempted to go to work on Friday evening on two separate occasions but the rain was so heavy, he could barely see while driving. After a few hours, he was eventually able to drive when the rain stopped briefly.

Shortly after he arrived at work, the rain picked up again and it was heavier. I looked in our backyard and noticed that the empty land behind our house was beginning to fill up with water. As the hours passed, the rain continued. By Saturday evening, not only had the rainfall increased but the wind was out of control. On the news, we saw that people's homes were flooding, some people had to evacuate to shelters, roads and major highway were flooding, etc. It became real!

We had to hold church service via Skype the next day because many of the major roads were flooded. That same Sunday, the streets in our neighborhood began to flood and our neighbors began to panic. My husband and I prayed for our neighborhood, church members and friends in Houston. I stayed up for most of the night praying as I monitored the water levels in front and behind our home. Naturally speaking, it was scary. Our house was pretty much an island; the water levels were rising in the front and behind our house at an alarming rate. We informed our pastors and loved ones, prayer mode was activated! Calls and messages started rolling in as the news of the storm and images of the devastation spread across the news, Internet, etc.

The beauty of it all is that God kept speaking to us in the midst of the storm. He told my husband, "I give you safety in your neighborhood". I remember looking out the window one day and thinking to myself, "We should have gotten flood insurance"; then I heard God say, "I am your insurance." He also instructed me to praise him continually (praise is a weapon, it is a defense; it is the key to victory). So when thoughts of fear threatened to overwhelm me as the waters rose and threaten to wreck havoc on our property; as I read about people loosing their lives; as our electricity flickered on and off at various intervals; as our food supplies dwindled and the rain fell harder; I kept praying and confessing the Word, I kept reciting Psalm 91, I kept saying "there shall be no loss"..." the angel of the Lord encamps around me"... "The Lord blesses without adding sorrow, he gave us this house and we will not sorrow over it, etc.

In these moments, all that was seemly 'wrong' in my life didn't matter. My husband suddenly wasn't so "annoying"; we no longer had reasons to disagree. The amount of money in my bank account no longer mattered. Waking up in the middle of the night to feed my baby no long felt stressful. Being able to speak to family members on the phone was now something to look forward to. You see all that mattered was that I was alive and well! Everyday became a special gift, I woke up excited to see another day! I was overwhelmed with God's love.


For to him that is joined to all the living there is hope: for a living dog is better than a dead lion. Ecclesiastes 9:4 KJV

I work as a Crisis Counselor in a disaster relief program with my organization. Everyday at work, I meet people who have lost so much. I meet people who are now rendered homeless; people who have to camp out in front of their houses because their homes were not safe to live in; people who lost their jobs because they couldn't get to work during and after the storm or their company shut down because it was affected by the flood; people who haven't had a decent meal in weeks; people who are emotional distraught and finding it difficult to move forward; how about the woman whose husband left the comfort of their home to rescue others and lost his life in the process, now she is left with their children trying to adjust to their new reality.

As I hear their stories, I sympathize with them and do all that I can within my capacity to help them. After they've poured their hearts out, some times with tears flowing from their eyes, I always aim to help them see the bright side (one being that their alive) and make them smile; ensuring them that there is hope and restoration after each storm. Meeting these people reassures me that it was our faith in God that kept us safe during the storm, I don't take it for granted. God is good! Taste and see! All that he requires of you is your faith in him!


These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world. John 16:33 KJV

In life, there will always be storms. There will always challenges staring you in the face; there will trails; you will be hurt, you feel pain; you will disappointed. But there is good news; you don't have to accept it, you don't have to stay down, it doesn't have to redefine you, you don't have to succumb to it. Most of all, you don't have to go through it alone because God is all with you, cheering you on. His still small voice is always whispering the truth to you, reminding you that you are more than a conqueror.

From my experience during and after the hurricane, I learnt that the best way to get through any storm is to:

1. Trust God

2. Hold on to God's Word (Keep it before your eyes, in your heart, on your mind & on your lips)

3. Pray (prayer will give you strength to get through it)

4. Praise God (not for the storm, but for the victory over it)

5. Don't allow fear! (Fear will rob you of your peace- it is possible to have peace in the midst of storm)

6. Don't blame God (God is not the author of destruction, death, pain, lost, etc....the devil is (John 10:10))

7. Grow through it, don't just go through (let the experience leave you better, stronger, wiser, and more  grateful to God)

8. Your perspective is important, it will determine whether you will float or sink in the midst of storms. What you focus on is key, you can choose to focus on the storm or on God. Whatever you focus on becomes bigger, it becomes more real to you.
- During the hurricane my daughter would go to the window intermittently and get excited. She would say, "Mommy, there is a pool behind our house, can we go swimming?" I had to inform her that it was not a pool so she didn't get any ideas. On one of those occasions, this scripture came to my heart:
 "When Jesus saw what was happening, he was angry with his disciples. He said to them, “Let the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the Kingdom of God belongs to those who are like these children.  I tell you the truth, anyone who doesn’t receive the Kingdom of God like a child will never enter it.” Mark 10:14‭-‬15 NLT

In order to continuously walk in victory, we have to see God as our father and trust in his love absolutely. We have to be like children, having absolutely no cares because we know that Daddy has our back; he has our lives in his hands!!

In conclusion, you don't have to become a victim of storms, victory is always yours in Jesus; it is your choice to take it or leave it.



You are blessed!

- Bunmi


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Wednesday, September 06, 2017

Let Purpose Define You, Not People

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He left there and returned to his hometown. His disciples came along. On the Sabbath, he gave a lecture in the meeting place. He made a real hit, impressing everyone. “We had no idea he was this good!” they said. “How did he get so wise all of a sudden, get such ability?” But in the next breath they were cutting him down: “He’s just a carpenter—Mary’s boy. We’ve known him since he was a kid. We know his brothers, James, Justus, Jude, and Simon, and his sisters. Who does he think he is?” They tripped over what little they knew about him and fell, sprawling. And they never got any further. Jesus told them, “A prophet has little honor in his hometown, among his relatives, on the streets he played in as a child.” Jesus wasn’t able to do much of anything there—he laid hands on a few sick people and healed them, that’s all. He couldn’t get over their stubbornness. He left and made a circuit of the other villages, teaching. 
Mark 6:1-6 MSG

Don't be surprised, just because you've made some changes and have become a better person doesn't mean that other people will get it or be able to relate with the new you. There are people that can only relate with you based on your hometown, your past, your mistakes, your profession, your titles, your income, your material possessions, etc.

When Jesus visited his hometown, his childhood friends and family knew that there was something unique about him but they couldn't not receive from him; they couldn't get over the fact that he was "just" a carpenter (his profession) or that he grew up in the same neighborhood as them (his hometown).

Personally, I have discovered this in my own life. Some people will always see me as little Bunmi; you know the people that say "I used to change your diaper when you were a baby" or "I remember when you were this tall" (lifting their hands a few inches from the ground) . There are people that see me as their friend that they used to go clubbing with; or the outwardly quiet girl that they grew up with. However, I am none of the above.

I have friends and family in the city where I pastor, yet many of them have not visited our church. Note to upcoming ministers, this is normal don't be offended. I have come to realize that some people will find it difficult to relate to me as a pastor; but I have learnt to not allow that to get to me. There are people that God has sent me to and they've been able to relate to me accordingly. I also thank God that my husband's and I's immediate families have been supportive, because this isn't always the case.

I also remember when I started this blog, I was so excited to finally have summed up the courage to start. Yet my excitement was short-lived when I discovered that I was not getting as much support from family and friends as expected. But, I couldn't stay there; I had to obey God and focus on the purpose of this blog.

You must come to a place where you walk in the awareness and consciousness of who you; or else, you will allow people, places and situations to define you. It is the creator or manufacturer of something that truly knows the purpose for which that thing was created. You are who God says you are, the purpose for which you were created is your identity.

I am fortunate to be married to both my companion and my pastor. I had to learn how to relate with him on those levels separately. If I just see him as my companion, I won't be able to receive from him as my pastor. This is something that I observed and learnt (I am still learning) from my mentor.

One thing that captivated me about my spiritual parents/mentors is that they knew about my past, yet they refused to define me by it. When I first sat down to speak with them, they addressed me in line with my purpose. They saw me the way God saw me, even though I was and still am a work in progress.

You may be having issues with people accepting the new you or accepting you for who you truly are, but don't be discouraged. You see, people that are not spiritually sensitive can not see you for who you are. Also refuse to be that person, the person that relates to people based on their mistakes or their shortcomings. Choose to love people, when you truly love people, you will see them through God's eyes; you will be patient with them, you will love them thorough their highs and lows and cheer them on along the way (Married folks and ministers, this is especially a word for you).


Surround yourself with people that see you as God does; people that encourage you. Remember it is not everyone that will see you for who you truly are, but never allow that to stop you from being YOU! Keep at it, remained focused on purpose and in no time the world will celebrate you for who you truly are!



You are blessed!



- Bunmi


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Thursday, August 31, 2017

Our Spontaneous Honeymoon

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Hello everyone!

Thank you so much for visiting this space today.

I am so happy to be alive today after going through and surviving Hurricane Harvey. The last few days have been unexplainable. I will share my experience in a detailed blog post soon.

Today, I will continue my personal testimony on life after my wedding day. In my last post, I shared my wedding day experience. Overall, it was a beautiful day however I allowed myself to be distracted by the things that didn't go according to plan. At the end of the day the most important thing is that I was joined in holy matrimony with God's special gift to me.

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As we drove out of the reception venue, I sighed a sigh of relief. Finally 'it' was over. I was exhausted and famished. We were told that we couldn't eat while in the reception hall; I guess for the sake of pictures or whatever. So we were stuck with drinks and snacks; thankfully I had breakfast that morning.

As our driver continued on the rode, he turned to ask us where we were headed. Imagine my astonishment when I turned to my husband and he didn't have a definite answer. He was responsible for planning the honeymoon...big mistake! Prior to our wedding day, I kept asking if the honeymoon plans were set and he would answer in the affirmative. It didn't take me long to realize that planning such things was not one of his strengths. I was too tired to be upset, I just wanted to eat and sleep.

To top it off, I wasn't comfortable; the driver had a passenger in the front seat that we didn't see earlier. Thankfully, my brother in law brought it to our attention and questioned him before we left the reception venue. However, I still wasn't comfortable with this random stranger.

My husband told the limo driver and his friend to drop us off at the Sheraton hotel after spotting it from a distance. "Good choice" I thought to myself. After unloading our things from the car, we said farewell to the limo driver and the random stranger, would suddenly became friendly when we reached our destination. Of course, his sudden change in attitude was in anticipation of the tip he was expecting. My husband paid his dues and they went their way.

As soon as we walked into the lobby of the hotel, all eyes were on us. From the way we were dressed, It was clear that we were celebrating something. After we told the large crowd that we just got married, congratulatory shouts filled the air from people of various nationalities. In that moment, I felt good. I forgot all about the 'old' and embraced the 'new'....yes!!!! I was really married!!!

My husband proceeded to the reception desk to get our room situated as I sat holding my heavy wedding dress in my lap. The hotel staff proceeded to offer us drinks while we waited. It felt good, I felt like a celebrity; the thought, "I can get used to this"  crossed my mind. We finally got a room and it was beautiful. It felt like I was in another country, the hotel facilities were top notch.

The first thing that I did after dropping our belongings, was grab the food that was packed for us. Imagine my disappointment when I realized that the food was cold and their was no microwave in our room; I don't do cold food. Thankfully the hotel management sent us a complementary tray of fruits and some more drinks to celebrate our newly wed status; so that was my dinner.

The telephone in our room rang and my husband was told to come to the reception desk. Although he paid some of the bill already, he was told to put the remaining balance down before we called it a night. When I saw the bill, all the relief that initially felt disappeared; the room was 48 thousand naira (about $250) per night; which was definitely above our budget. We had to start counting our monetary gifts from the wedding, thankfully we had enough for one night.

Needless to say, I couldn't be bothered about anything any longer. I proceeded to take a shower to relieve the stress. And like they say, the rest is history!

You are blessed!


- Bunmi



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Tuesday, August 22, 2017

Who's in your inner circle?


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"Iron sharpens iron; so a man sharpens a friend's character" Proverbs 27:17 (ISV) 

There is a common saying that goes "Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are"; I concur. Towards the end of last year, I was doing some reevaluation; because I wasn't content with the amount of progress that I had made in certain areas of my life. I was determined to make 2017 a HIT, a year to go down as one of my best!

After much prayer and meditation, I realized that I had to reconsider my inner cycle. I can count on one hand how many people I consider to be a friend. I was never one to flourish amongst a "clique" or "squad". So I kept my circle small intentionally. It pained me to have to reconsider certain relationships, I thought that I had figure this friendship thing out; I was proud to proclaim "no new friends". But I was absolutely mistaken!

When I began to sift my inner circle, I realized that some of my friend's bad habits were rubbing off on me. It was very subtle, but it was happening. I noticed that when I spoke to a particular friend, our conversations mostly involved gossip. Although I wasn't an active participate, I enabled her because I was always willing to listen. If someone talks to you about others, they will talk about you to others; I found this out the hard way. And this is when it hit me.

"Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character."  1 Corinthians 15:33 (NIV)

Although I did not find myself gossiping, I realized that my mindset about certain things began to change in a bad way. Your character is an offshoot of your mindset. So I had to protect my character and take a few steps back and setup boundaries.

I spoke to my mentor about what has transpired and she informed me to deal with the issue wisely. I wasn't supposed to cut her off completely; instead I had to transform our relationship from a horizontal one into a vertical one. It is often said that people come into our lives for reasons and seasons and we ought to recognize this in order to maximize these relationships.

Horizontal relationships are relationships in which each party is on the same level and can influence each other accordingly. Vertical relationships are relationships in which one party is on another level, as compared to the other party, and is in the position to positively influence that party (according to Bunmi's dictionary).

Your inner circle should be filled with horizontal relationships. It is only iron that can sharpen iron, wood cannot sharpen iron (in the words of my spiritual father). 

I have a particular vision for my life, as everyone should. And I want friends that can see this vision also; friends that will encourage me, pray for and with me, challenge me and correct me. So I had to rearrange my inner circle, because I wanted to make progress. The process wasn't easy but it was necessary.

What about you?


"YOU CAN NEVER GROW BEYOND YOUR INNER CIRCLE" 
-Bunmi Adebiyi

You are blessed!


- Bunmi



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Thursday, August 17, 2017

Never Be Afraid To Be Alone



Look unto Abraham your father, and unto Sarah that bare you: for I called him alone, and blessed him, and increased him. Isaiah 51:2 KJV
A few weeks ago I went back to my old stomping grounds to attend a friend's wedding. On the hour long drive from the airport to my sister's apartment (my host for the weekend), I drove by places that brought back various memories. From downtown DC where I often frequented during my college days at Howard University (The REAL HU), to the different neighborhoods that I lived and played in during my time in Maryland, to the beautiful Arlington, Virginia where I lived and attended physical therapy school briefly.

While I had some good feelings as I navigated my way through each state, deep down inside I had confirmation that I no longer belonged there. You see when God told me to relocate to Nigeria, one of the reasons why I was disheartened was because I loved the DMV. It was where I 'matured'; I had found God there, I discovered purpose there, I had developed life long relationships there, I had found 'love' and lost it there. The DMV had become an integral part of my life and I couldn't imagine myself living and raising my family elsewhere.

Most of all, the thought of relocating to Nigeria plagued me with the overwhelming fear of being alone. My immediate family and friends were all in the U.S.; and I wasn't the type to make new friends easily. I later came to realize that I had to be alone for a season, because of where God was taking me to. If I stayed in the U.S. I wouldn't be where I am today.

You see if I stayed in that same environment and around the same people, my growth would have been stunted; because I had found my comfort zone. I was doing 'good' according to my books. But God had more in store for me and I had to be alone to see it and enter into it.

During my visit to the DMV, I also realized that I couldn't relate to some people like I used to. Imagine, these people were part of the reason why I never wanted to leave. Words can't explain why, but we are on different levels now; like scripture says, "deep calleth unto deep". I no longer 'fitted in'  and it was okay. Don't get me wrong, I in no shape or form feel that I am better than anyone; I am only in competition with myself. But we just couldn't connect like we used to.

The above scripture kept ringing in my heart after I left the DMV. God reminded me that his Will is perfect and he knows what is best for me. He told me that he called me out of my comfort zone to bless me. And I can confidently day that the Lord has surely been good to me. Just like he was good to Abraham and blessed him beyond measure when he left his father's house to a land that God eventually showed him.

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When it was time to relocate to the U.S. after being in Nigeria for a few years, I secretly wished that I could move back to the DMV. After all we were coming to start up a church and I already had 'connections', so it would be a piece of cake. But when I and my husband prayed, we heard 'Houston'. God sure has the best sense of humor! I was born in Houston but I was raised in New York. My dad tried desperately to get us to move to Houston during my teenage years, but my mom, siblings and I were not having it. I remember saying, "I'll never live in Houston"; I have sure learned to "never say never".

Here I was in Houston, alone again and having to start from scratch with forming relationships, discovering new places and things, jump starting my career, etc. Sometimes the 'aloneness' got to me and I felt like an Israelite, I'd question God in my head, asking why didn't he just leave us in Nigeria where we had become comfortable to an extent; I had reached my comfort zone there. But I should have known better, I should have observed how God has dealt with me in the past and just relaxed and enjoyed the ride.

You see at certain seasons of your life being alone is needed; it is necessary for you to gain access to another level, another blessing or a greater manifestation of the blessing of God in your life. Don't despise your alone seasons, it is a time of grooming and purning, a time of perfecting and maturing, a time of refining and restoring. At times you'd have to walk away from people, places, things, opportunities, careers, etc but never be afraid. The truth is you're never alone because God is always with you!

You are blessed!


- Bunmi



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