A Pleasant Surprise

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Hello All!

HAPPY DECEMBER! 2017 is winding down and 2018 is beckoning!

I don't know about you but 2017 has been one for the books; an interesting year to say the least. I surely had some ups and downs; but overall I can say that I had a great year!

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In my last post, I spoke about my experience with looking for employment in Akure. If you haven't read it yet, check it out here: Looking Up to God.

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So after about six months, I finally started "work". It was an exciting and fulfilling experience. I enjoyed what I did; I enjoyed having something to keep me busy during the day. The organization was led by an amazing person and I was amazed by the exceptional work and effort of the staff members. It was a completely different experience from the work that I did with NYSC.

During my first month at work, I was also planning our church's first year anniversary. And being the perfectionist that I am, I was stressed and overwhelmed. I wanted everything to be perfect. In my bid of having a perfect anniversary celebration, I noticed that I was getting irritated easily; if something didn't go the way I planned, I would be so annoyed and if anyone was responsible for it, they may have just heard 'it' from me (*covers face*)

Thankfully the anniversary celebration went well; in fact it was a huge success! I was finally able to breathe again! One day while chilling with my husband in our home, I had a light bulb moment. I realized that I hadn't gotten my period that month. I informed my husband and he just brushed it off; he attributed the delay to the stress associated with planning the Church's anniversary.  I agreed but at the back on my mind the question "Am I pregnant?" lingered.

After a week of no call, no show from Ms. Period, I convinced my husband to purchase a pregnancy test. "You're not pregnant...I am a doctor, I would know" my husband said. He had every reason to feel that way, I had absolutely no symptoms. I felt perfectly fine.

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When we first got married, I told my husband that I did not want to have any children until after the first year; he concurred. I wanted to "enjoy my marriage"...it is not like children make it impossible to enjoy marriage by the way.  But, I knew that I just wanted to have time alone with my husband. After all, our courtship was short and I wanted to spend some more time getting to know him and vice versa.

Well six months into our marriage, I started to reconsider. After all, "I wasn't getting any younger" and "my clock was ticking"; I had baby fever!  So I decided to have a talk with my husband and he also agreed. So we decided to discontinue using birth control. Hmm...In reference to birth control, I got so many reactions when I told people that I was considering it. I heard things like, "There is no birth control in marriage"; "You should only use birth control after your first child"; "You better not use birth control and damage your womb." I was shocked at these reactions but I went ahead nonetheless; when I went to the family planning clinic, I ignored the nurse's mumbling and vivid displeasure about my decision; I gladly took the birth control and went about my business! Thankfully, I was informed so I didn't allow anyone to mislead me.

But I digress...

While growing up, I was always afraid of pregnancy and childbirth. I saw and heard terrifying things. I heard about the morning sickness & the various symptoms- from nausea, to vomiting, to swollen feet, to chronic spitting (this is a symptom that I've only seen in Nigerians btw!), to weird cravings, to chronic back pain, etc. I did not know anyone that had anything good to say about pregnancy; except the usual “once you have the baby you will forget about all the symptoms and pain.”  I was told that the pain associated with childbirth was the worst pain ever; it couldn't be compared to anything.

So I was very scared. Also since my teenage years, I kept hearing a voice (the voice of the devil of course) telling me that I would have challenges when it comes to getting pregnant. It was so strange to me, no one in my immediate family had that issue...so why me??? The fear of pregnancy and childbirth was a huge burden that I carried, until one faithful day.

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I had just completed School of Ministry, which is a comprehensive training for ministry conducted by my pastor. We had classes, tests, a group project and a project defense/presentation at the end of the course. My group was recognized for having the best project; and I was given a book. When I finally settled down at home, I removed the book’s packaging. *I laugh now as I remember my reaction* As soon as I read the title, I was livid. My husband just sat quietly and watched my Oscar-worthy performance. "Why do they always expect people to have a baby right after the wedding? Why couldn't I have been given any other book?"

The book in question was "Supernatural Childbirth" by Jackie Mize; that book changed my life! I decided to pick it up a few weeks later and I have not and never will regret it. I have read it several times since then. For the first time in my life, I discovered that pregnancy could be enjoyable, symptom-free and that delivery could be pain-free. WHAT?!?! As I devoured each page, my faith increased more and more and I was pumped up! * I recommend this book for anyone that desires to have a child, IT IS A MUST READ*

Shortly after getting married, we had an "issue" that naturally would prevent me from getting pregnant and those words came back "you're going to have trouble getting pregnant." I started googling away and already discussed the possibility of going to see a specialist to my husband before I realized that I was going about it all wrong. I got my senses back and decided to pray and take authority over that issue. In no time, it simply disappeared! Look at God! There is power in faith! There is power in prayer!

So back to the day when we decided to take the pregnancy test. I opened the package and did the do. My husband and I went about our business and actually forgot about it; until I walked into the restroom a few hours later. And to my amazement, it was POSITIVE! I couldn't believe my eyes! I just stood there glued to the restroom floor. After a few minutes, I ran to my husband and shared the news. He was render speechless; when he regained his voice, he kept saying it was not possible. After the shock, came the excitement. I was surprised because I did not expect to get pregnant so soon, I just stopped the birth control a month prior.

It became real when we went for the first ultrasound a few days later; I was six weeks pregnant! I had a baby in me!!!

To be continued...



You are blessed!



- Bunmi


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