When You Know, You Know!

Hello all!

Welcome to the blog today!!!

Thank you so much for the response on the last post! Please keep the comments coming, they are encouraging!!!

I was all smiles while writing this post. I hope that you will be all smiles as you read it as well! Above all, I pray that you will be blessed!

If you haven't done so already, click the 'Destiny steps' tab at the top to see previous posts in which I share my personal testimony thus far. For those viewing this on a mobile phone, you'd need to scroll down to the bottom of this page and click "View web version" in order to see and click on the ‘Destiny steps’ tab.

I’ve always heard the statement “When you know, you know”. This statement is often made in reference to the person you’ll marry. I actually was skeptical about this statement, until it happened to me.

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Things started to move very fast…things moved at an alarming but good speed. I call it God’s speed!

So, I finally decided to surrender and go with the flow. I wasn't going to fight God's Will any longer. From experience, I have come to discover that he always knows best and his plans are perfect.

I finally found the courage to tell me my close friends and family about this new discovery. One of these close friends knew him from a distance; she was a church member and she had nothing but great things to say about him. My other friends and family were surprisingly encouraging also. They were all excited. My dad shouted “I told you!” My siblings were routing for someone they did not know. Hmm… I guess they also couldn't wait for me to move on from the last failed relationship.

I started to get excited about the idea of being in relationship with him after such an amazing response from my love ones. So, I decided to trust God and open up my heart a bit. As soon as I made that decision, things started to move along well with surprises along the way.

We started to develop a friendship. We would talk on the phone, send each other text messages and hang out. He would surprise me with ice cream and food out of the blue...one of the keys to my heart (hehe). Whenever I was at church, he would offer to give me a ride home. After arriving at my house we could sit in the car and talk for hours.

I liked him; he was easy going and his joy was contagious. I really enjoyed his company. He was very caring and simple. He was spiritual; he had a personal relationship with God that was undeniable...this was a big deal for me. He also made me feel very comfortable around him; I was able to let down my guards without fear.

We had a lot of things in common. We both had careers in the health field, we both attended the same type of church while growing up, we both had three siblings and the list goes on.

One day I woke up and I knew that it was going to be a good day. I had no idea why, but I was excited. The Holy Spirit even told me to get my hair done. So I called up my stylist and set up an appointment. He called me earlier to say that he wanted to pick me up after work; so I made sure that I looked good (wink).

The work day went well; and passed by fast. For some reason, I couldn't wait to see him. The excitement that I felt was undeniable. When he picked me up, he told me that he liked my hair (yay! He noticed!). He then tells me that he wanted us to go and have lunch. Of course I was happy...being a lover of good food!

We arrived at the location; it was one of the nicest hotels in Ile Ife. I was impressed, he had good taste. I knew that it was a good place because, when my mom came to visit, it was the hotel we stayed at.

He proceeded to open the car door for me and then the door to the hotel’s restaurant. I was elated. Hmm...a gentleman (another plus!). After being seated we both discussed how our days went. We then ordered our meals and drinks; the chit chat continued. Our meals arrived shortly after and everything was delicious.

As we were rounding up our meals, he said that he had something to tell me. The words that proceeded out of his mouth shocked me. He told that he'd fallen in love with me over the short time that we've know each other. He told me that he saw a future with me and wanted me to be his wife.

I was caught off guard. I knew that it would happen, but I didn't expect it so soon. I felt overwhelmed and elated at the same time. I was officially on cloud 9. I sat speechless with a wide smile on my face.

He paid for our meals and we proceeded to leave. We had to attend a church service that evening. During our drive to my place, he told me that he knew that I'd probably need some time to give him an answer. But he was certain that I was God's best for him.

Before I could think twice, I said 'YES'. I surprised him and myself. It was too late to take it back; what had been said had been said. I was a little embarrassed. Wasn't I supposed to make him wait? It shouldn't have been so easy (hehe)! Plus I never got a chance to discuss everything with mentor. Also growing up in the Western culture, a proposal isn't real without an engagement ring. I wondered what I got myself into. But I sucked it up and decided to enjoy the moment… when you know...you know!

I went from single to being in a relationship in a manner of minutes; with someone that I had only been friends with for a little over a week. This wasn't normal. How could I agree to be his wife so fast? I barely knew him!

No matter how much I questioned my decision, I knew it was the right one. I couldn't fight the peace that I had. I couldn't fight how sure I was.

This was beyond me...I threw up my hands and allowed Jesus to take the wheel. This was something that I couldn't have thought of on my own; it was beyond my wildest daydreams. It was finally happening! And it was happening God’s way!

To be continued...


You're blessed!


- Bunmi


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My Little Secret

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Hello everyone!

Can you believe it is October already??? Wow! Happy OCTOBER to you! My prayer is that God will crown 2016 with GOODNESS for YOU!!!

I took a very long break from sharing my testimony. My apologies, let's continue from where we left off.

If you haven't done so already, click the 'Destiny steps' tab at the top to see previous posts in which I share my personal testimony thus far. For those viewing this on a mobile phone, you'd need to scroll down to the bottom of this page and click "View web version" in order to see and click on the ‘Destiny steps’ tab.

So I finally had confirmation about this man being my husband. I was absolutely sure this time around, without a shadow of a doubt. I tried to invite doubt, but my invitation was rejected. I could not shake the certainty that I felt. This was an unfamiliar feeling to me. I had mixed feelings. You'd think that I'd be ecstatic, but I wasn't. Above many other things, I was afraid.

I was afraid of the unknown. I was afraid about being wrong again. I was afraid about having to tell family and friends. I was afraid of having to start all over. I was afraid of making mistakes and getting heart broken. I was afraid that he wouldn't accept me and my past. I was afraid that I wouldn't be a good pastor's wife. I was afraid of never having a "life" because of the demands of ministry.

His friendliness continued, but there was no suspicious behavior. Apparently, that was his person...he was always happy and smiling. Soon enough, it seemed like he was running away from me. Like I'd see him one second and then he'd speed off the next second. Hmmm...Maybe I was wrong after all.

I was so uncertain about everything. God revealed that he was my husband in October and it was now November. I just broke up with my ex a few weeks ago. Didn't I need time to heal? It went against everything I believed about relationships and breakups. Okay, granted I knew a long time ago that I was in the wrong relationship. And for some reason, I couldn't even be sad or depressed about the breakup. I tried to cry but the tears never came. In the past, I would have been a wreck for weeks. I just had this unshakable peace; I knew that I had made the right decision.

I tried desperately to reach out to my new mentor during this period of uncertainty. But for some reason, our schedules kept clashing. So, I found myself alone in my confusion. I was too afraid to confide in anyone else; I didn't want to be judged.

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I had finally neared the end of foundation school and it was time for me to take the last two courses with the Pastor in charge. So I set up a date and time with 'Him'. When I got to our meeting place, which was church he seemed to be very busy. He had me waiting for a long time.

Surprisingly while waiting for him, my mentor passed by and as I was greeting her he walked back into the church auditorium. She was on her way out so our greeting was short. However there was a look on her face that lingered on after that day. There was something in her smile.

When it was finally time for our class, he seemed to be very excited. He was smiling for ear to ear. I came straight from work and was a bit hungry, so I wanted to get it over with. During the class, two other pastors passed by and were smiling extra hard. I just knew it! They all knew! He had told them, I was slightly embarrassed, the secret was out!...or so I thought. I later came to find out that they had no idea.

It was a few minutes before our church’s weekly prayer meeting when the class ended. I wanted to dash home but he encouraged me to stay. It was my first time attending the prayer meeting. It actually wasn't too bad. Afterwards, he dropped me off at home. To be sincere, I don't remember the drive home. All that was on my mind was food and sleep!

To be continued...

You're blessed!


- Bunmi


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